Not long ago I was able to identify a pattern in the behavior of some people around me. Everyone cheats! This appears to represent the new trend, and everyone seems to be fine with it, nowadays someone who’s loyal and honest is the weirdest thing to find in a partner. People are looking for something fast; Their desire win over their body and soul. Society is lost in lust. What happened with being crazy in love? What happened to the feeling of belonging to someone, of being so deeply in love that no one else mattered? Is this treacherous love acceptable?
Let me start with a few points, open relationships, polygamy, fuck buddies, friends with benefits, BULLSHIT! Nothing of that really works, you don’t have to be a scientist or must be on one to know it, whoever says that it worked for them is delusional. Maybe I’m the crazy one, but I feel so weird about all of this. It’s stupid and I refuse to think that both parties are okay or none of them is hurt by all the mess in this circus! It doesn’t feel right to me but HEY if you’re okay with it, be my guest and keep doing your thing, I won’t judge. Only thing I’ll ask, ‘Are you truly and fully happy?’.
There’s someone that I used to like, dear John, how awful. John has a partner and they live together; From what I know they have an open relationship. Don’t know when it all started but their relationship couldn’t be more toxic, in my opinion, is a constant cheating on each other agreement. Both know and seemed to be okay with it. I used to really like John, he’s charming and a beloved friend, but that’s it. I can’t say if it’ll be a good partner. I was thinking, how would I feel or what would I do if I were in his position. The mere idea of being there just breaks my heart, I could never. I am someone who is seeking love. Genuine love. Ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can’t live without each other love. I’m sure, and I can bet that they’re not happy with each other, it’s sad. At the end it all comes to our decisions; we decide to stay, and we decide to stick with that person who’s constantly and endlessly hurting us. Because we accept the love, we think we deserve.
Is it love? Or is it an addiction to the pain? The exquisite pain of wanting to be with someone who’ll be there but not fully there?
Why humans cheat? What was the reason? If you can’t be faithful, then don’t be in a relationship. Is a commitment, not like an engagement but a promise, respect that at least. If you ever loved that person and don’t want to hurt them break up with them. Take a break but don’t cheat, if you feel like you’re going to do it be a decent human being and break up. It’ll be better for both parties. What happened with our values? Love is a decision and you have to be really brave to decide whether you’re going to stay or leave. Some people need a break from each other to either realize they are not meant for each other or realize that there’s no one else in this world that will make them experience the way they feel for each other.
Hopeless romantic, maybe, is it so bad? Is it too much to ask? Am I being unreasonable? These represent my thoughts; these represent my feelings towards cheating. I nevertheless hope that maybe one day I’ll find the love I want, because I don’t like this treacherous love.