I’ve dealt with gossip before. It’s not new to me. On the odd occasion it crushes me and sometimes I laugh it off. It all comes to one person; it starts there and then spreads to everyone else. Like a virus, it becomes a pandemic and it’s contagious. I know for a fact the people that surround you have an impact on how other see you and how you are perceived. Even the Bible says:
Keep company with the wise, and you will become wise. If you make friends with stupid people, you will be ruined.
Everyone was right, I was the one to foolishly believe that they might have been wrong. Everyone had the wrong perception about me, and it hurt my person, it was character assassination by association. It wasn’t until everything was chaos that I realized something was not quite alright here. It wasn’t until valuable people in my life decided to take a step back and distanced themselves from me. I knew in that moment that by being friends with someone toxic everyone thought that I was toxic too. I couldn’t perceive it at first it all seemed normal, I was completing my homework and being a promising student. Something was off, though… that’s when I learned:
Do not follow the majority when they do wrong or when they give testimony that perverts justice.
Meaning that I followed you and I was blind to see that being with you was demeaning to my reputation. It all started with hugs, kisses and senseless dancings. Best friends forever you tell me. Pinky swears and bracelets, constantly revealing secrets in recess. I’m not trying to point any fingers, but I’ve heard the whispers, going around, not trying to point you out here just making the facts clear, that I have found that you’re the gossip girl.
I thought you were real to me, but you’re just plastic, shiny plastic hard shell. That’s what gossip girls are and what they do, is they talk the talk about you. They always seem to talk the talk but never tell the truth. It took you one principal, two coordinators and three teachers for you to be at ease. I’m no saint, I’ll admit but you gained the crown of hell for you need no conscience to cause trouble and suffer no remorse. In addition to act like the victim.
At the end it’s on you. Now, it’s on me how to redeem myself. Therefore, are we going to have a problem? You’ve come so far, why, now, are you yanking on my chain? I could tell everyone and they will discover the truth, but I know that’s not me, so here’s some advice listen up gossip girl. Mind your own business, focus on your own life and practice a little empathy. What’s the point of being shady if you’re not helping others or yourself. People look at you and they don’t see someone that they can trust.
Now if I could turn back in time and give some advice to my younger self I would let him know that: when a toxic person can no longer control you, they will try to control how others see you. The misinformation will seem unfair, but stay above it, trusting that others will see the truth, just like you did. Let them judge you. Let them misunderstand you. Let them gossip about you. Their opinions aren’t your problems. You stay kind, committed to love and free in your authenticity. No matter what they do or say, don’t you dare doubt your worth or the beauty of your truth. Just keep shinning like you do.